A lot of men (and probably other genders, but mostly men) like to creepily hit on people (usually women) in contexts in which it’s not ok to hit on people. (Eg: on the subway).
Girls start experiencing this before they’re considered old enough for sex ed.
Creepy men regularly do this in a way that’s slightly deniable.
Like sitting way too close. Or asking an almost innocuous thing. And it feels really horrible to be on the receiving end, but it can be hard to put your finger on why. And if you object, the man who started it will try as hard as he can to say you’re being unreasonable. Often, bystanders or people you tell afterwards will empathically agree and tell you he was just being friendly and that didn’t have to be rude.
This is not your fault.
The Sociological Cinema (via ugh
"Broad daylight, and no witness…
Being a (game developing) woman in tech, episode # 384.
George RR Martin (Game of Thrones) explains how he writes women.
I’m not going to try to twist this into some empowerment thing. It’s not. I’m just saying, to me - the question shouldn’t be, “Is she enticing men too much?” It should be, “Is she a real person?”